Want to try something new in your sex life? Anal sex can offer intense sensations to both men and women, and potentially even lead to orgasm. The area around the anus has many nerve endings that are very sensitive and can be stimulated by touch. Whether you’re with a long-time partner or someone you’ve recently met on Chicks2fuck.com, exploring this kind of intimacy requires trust and communication. As with any new experience, it’s important to take things slow and ensure both partners are comfortable and enthusiastic.

Anal sex for the first time

Anal sex can be enjoyable for everyone, regardless of preference, for both the active and passive party, or even for both, regardless of gender. This applies to both heterosexual and lesbian and gay couples. The most important thing about anal sex is to take it slow, especially if it's your first time. Talk to your partner about it beforehand and discuss your expectations and needs. Is anal sex right for both of you? Maybe one of you already has some experience? Do you see yourself in an active or passive role? Talk openly to clear up any uncertainties.

Do not hide your concerns and fears. It's clear that the anus is a particularly sensitive part of the body, and penetrating too quickly and abruptly can lead to injury - especially if you don't use enough lubricant. A relaxed approach to it will make anal sex much more enjoyable.

There is probably no sexual practice as surrounded by myths and taboos as anal sex. Therefore, it makes sense to first deal with some of the myths that exist around this topic. We have collected the most common false statements below and conducted a reality check.

Clearing up myths about anal sex

There are many prejudices, rumors, and false claims about anal sex, and you've probably heard one or another “horror story” as well, from bad odors to medical emergencies. We're going to dispel these ridiculous myths about anal sex and explain how things really are.

Myth #1: Anal sex is painful

The truth: Anal sex only hurts when you approach it thoughtlessly and without preparation. If you are in the right mood, relaxed, gently stretch your anus with a finger or an anal toy, and use enough lube, it won't hurt, but will bring pleasure. Attention: saliva is not a lubricant!

Myth #2: Anal sex is dirty

Reality: Feces is in the rectum only just before defecation. If you don't feel the need to go to the toilet, anal sex is hygienically safe. Showering before anal sex is recommended, and for those who want to be sure, you can cleanse your bowels with an anal shower. However, it may happen that despite cleansing, feces may be released during anal sex. If this happens, it is better to interrupt the process to cleanse yourself or continue with another sexual practice. Important: Intestinal bacteria can cause vaginal infections. Please never go straight from anal sex to vaginal sex!

Myth #3: Condoms are not necessary

Reality: Contraception with a condom is important! Although the risk of unwanted pregnancy is much lower during anal sex, the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection such as HIV due to the rapid formation of microcracks in the anal area is much higher.

Myth #4: The anus stretches

Reality: The sphincter is a very strong muscle in our body. Although it can adapt more quickly to pressure and stretching during regular anal sex, and relax more easily, it will not stretch and lose its function - except in case of injury. By the way, the same applies to the vagina.

Myth #5: Anal sex is only for gays

One of the great advantages of anal sex is that people of any gender and orientation can find pleasure in it. Unfortunately, there are still many clichés and stereotypes surrounding anal sex, and some heterosexual men often associate anal sex with certain role models. If they are the passive party, sometimes they feel as if they are taking the role of a woman or a gay man. Behind this is the fear of being labeled as gay or feminine and losing their status as a “real man”. Whatever that means...

Everyone is born with the same nerve endings in the anus, regardless of their sexual orientation. Cis men also have a prostate that can be stimulated during anal penetration. There are many heterosexual cis men who have discovered the pleasures of anal stimulation, and there are many gay men who have tried it and decided it's not for them. It's purely a matter of taste, and gender or sexual orientation shouldn't stop someone from enjoying anal sex. It can also be fun to play with roles during sex and even change them by trying strap-on play (pegging).

Myth 6: Women don't like anal sex

Social norms and expectations are constantly changing and evolving. Sexual stigma and what we consider an acceptable and healthy part of our intimacy are things that can fortunately be rewritten. So is the assumption that (cis) women don't like anal sex and only do it because a man wants it from them and they want to fulfill his “fantasy.” 

What is problematic in this assumption? A lot of things. It minimizes and normalizes sexual violence and the fact that consensus in action is still not the norm in all bedrooms. On the other hand, this statement denies women's sexual capacity for action and their sexual desires, ignoring the fact that women may well enjoy anal sex. It can certainly be stimulating and exciting for women and has nothing to do with submission mentioned above. Finally, this statement is deeply cis- and heteronormative. Everyone has the right to enjoy anal adventures - or not to admire them at all. Regardless of what sex a person considers himself or with whom he wants to have sex.. Fortunately, the real idea of who can/should enjoy anal sex is different from this general narrative. It may not be talked about openly in society, but anal sex is a common sexual practice that both partners can enjoy if it is safe and careful. No one should feel compelled to do so. If that's what you want, do it - if not, don't force yourself. Whether you like anal sex, each person must decide for himself.

Myth 7: Anal orgasms exist

Pure anal orgasm does not exist. But since the anus and genitals are close to each other, you can get the so-called "orgasm from the second hand," when sensitive nerve endings in the anus and genital organs are simultaneously stimulated. Many people perceive this stimulation as an anal orgasm. Each person has numerous nerve endings in the anus area that can be stimulated by touch, which many people perceive as a pleasant sensation. Combined with masturbation or vaginal penetration, this can aggravate orgasm. In addition, there are gender features that affect the "anal orgasm."

Anal orgasm in men

The chestnut-sized prostate is located inside the anus on the wall of the intestine behind the penis and testicles. It is a gland that secretes a secret that mixes with sperm during ejaculation, making it more mobile. But this small nodule can also cause intense sensations. Five to seven centimeters from the entrance to the anus, you can find a round mound. It can be massaged with your fingertip - light pressure and circular movements. The middle finger is best suited, as it can penetrate deeper into the anus. If at the same time further stimulate the penis and head, "anal orgasm" is quite real. Sensations during orgasm with anal penetration are often described as more intense and different. More information about prostate massage can be found here.

Anal orgasm in women

Although it is impossible to stimulate the prostate, anal sex has its advantages - thanks to the clitoris! It includes not only the outer visible head of the clitoris, but also the inner legs of the clitoris and the vaginal opening, which have many nerve endings. In addition, there are muscles in the anus that are associated with this zone. Thus, through anal stimulation, it is possible to transmit sensations to the entire area. That is, the clitoris is stimulated indirectly. If anal sex further stimulates the head of the clitoris or vagina, an 'anal orgasm' will be achieved more easily. 

Basic tips for anal sex

All myths are dispelled, and you have a desire to try anal sex? Whether you want to try anal sex alone or with a partner/partner, we have all the tips and instructions you need, from proper preparation, the best poses for anal sex and to the perfect toys for beginners.

Anal sex: preparation is mandatory

The correct preparation for anal sex includes: careful stretching of the anus, hygiene and cleanliness, the right lubricant and understanding your own needs. For all these points, we will provide you with the most important tips so that you better understand how anal sex works and how to enjoy it.

1. Exploring your own needs during anal sex

If you do not have experience of anal adventures, first try to play with the anus yourself and find out what you like. Know your body and move gradually. Only in this way can you understand what you like and what is not, and whether the anal game suits you.

2. Stretching the anus to prepare for anal sex

Anus is not intended primarily for sex, that we all know. Therefore, before sex, this area should be carefully stretched to prepare for anal sex. Stretching is best done with a finger or anal toy.

3. Hygiene during anal sex is a pure affair

For sufficient hygiene during anal sex, it is usually enough to take a short shower before and clean the area around the anus. This will help to avoid unpleasant odors and other surprises. Usually the anus is relatively clean if there is no immediate desire to go to the toilet.

If only 2-3 hours have passed since the last trip to the toilet, then a little shower or bath is enough to clean.
To be sure, you can gently clean the inside of the anus with an anal shower. If the hair in this area is thicker, it is recommended to shave it before that. This is not only more hygienic, but also makes the insertion during anal sex smoother.

Anal shower: how to use

• Detach the tip from the pear and draw warm water into the sink to completely immerse the anal shower.
• After that, just dip the anal shower with the open side under water and try to release as much air as possible from the pear.
• It will automatically fill with water due to the suction effect.
• Attach the tip back to the pear and, if desired, lubricate it with a little water lubricant.
• Carefully insert the tip into the anus and press on the pear so that the water gets into the rectum.
• After that, sit on the toilet and let the water flow out.
• Depending on the color of the water after anal washing, you will understand whether you need to rinse again. The cleaner the water, the cleaner you are.
• Before proceeding to anal pleasure, you can once again clean the outer anus with a damp napkin. After such preparation anal sex almost nothing prevents.

4. Indispensable during anal sex: do not forget about the lubricant
Lubricant during anal sex is a necessity! It is known that, unlike vagina, the anus does not have the ability to moisturize. So don't feel sorry for him! Water-based lubricants are best suited, as they spare the skin and mucous membranes. In addition, they can be used with toys and latex condoms. There are also silicone anal lubricants that, thanks to their special formula, retain moisture longer during anal sex.

5. Nutrition for better anal sex

Grains, legumes, nuts, fruits and vegetables are usually rich in fiber. If consumed regularly, they can contribute to better and more regular bowel movements. For those who regularly enjoy passive anal sex, eating right can make it easier to cleanse the bowels. Not eating before anal sex does not help! The intestines will not be able to cleanse themselves in this way.

First anal sex: how to do it!

Do you feel prepared enough and want to try anal sex? Then you can try it alone or with a partner. For both situations - anal solo play and gradual progression as a couple - we've prepared the right tips to get you started.

Anal sex alone

For the first anal sex in private, you can get comfortable in the bathroom. The warm water relaxes your body and muscles. Using your fingers or an anal toy, you can slowly move forward. First, you need to gently massage the outside of the anus. Use a little lubricant to help the muscles and sensitive areas get used to the touch. And if something doesn't work the first time, don't put pressure on yourself! Maybe you'll be ready later.

Tip: anal toys

A small anal plug, with or without vibration, with its tapered shape and soft material, provides delicate pleasure and makes the beginning of anal play more enjoyable - always use a lubricant! An anal plug is ideal for stimulating the anus and stretching it during foreplay before anal sex with a partner. Anal toys always have a handle that serves as a limiter and prevents too deep penetration into the anus. Thus, safe play during anal sex is always guaranteed.

First anal sex with a partner - things to consider!

When having anal sex with a partner, the same rules are important as for solo sex: take your time, penetrate slowly, and, of course, don't forget about lubricant. During foreplay, you or your partner can use your fingers or an anal toy to pre-stretch. You can also use your tongue to gently massage, stimulate, and relax the outside of the anus (see anilingus). But remember that even in this case, diseases can be transmitted.

Sensations during anal sex: The first time you have anal sex, it doesn't always feel fantastic. For most people, the anus must first get used to anal play, and after a few times, anal sex will become more comfortable. In addition, you will become more relaxed with experience. These factors contribute to making anal sex more enjoyable because you concentrate more on the stimulation than on the process itself.

For the first time of anal sex, it is recommended to choose a relaxed sex position in which the passive partner can relax and the active partner can control the penetration. You can find the best anal positions for beginners in our selection of sex positions.

The 3 best positions for anal sex

One of the most popular anal positions among couples is the Sphinx. The passive partner is comfortably positioned on the stomach and slightly bends one leg. The anus remains relaxed and open. The active partner can penetrate smoothly from behind - be sure to use plenty of lubricant and be very careful to avoid injury.

Also, in the Rider position, when the passive partner is sitting on top, they have the ability to control anal sex on their own. The passive partner determines how fast the penis penetrates him and how fast he wants to move.

In the Angel position, both partners are very relaxed and lie comfortably behind each other. The active partner can use a lubricant to slowly penetrate the passive partner from behind, while the latter can relax his muscles to facilitate penetration. This position promises a lot of physical contact and tenderness.

Stretching the anus for beginners and advanced

During anal sex, pre-stretching the anus is crucial for a comfortable start. As mentioned above in the article, this can be done just before sex or on your own with a finger or toy. For those who regularly practice anal sex, gentle pelvic floor muscle training is recommended. This will help you better control your anal muscles and sphincters. You will be able to relax better at the right time and facilitate penetration. But you will be training not only relaxation, but also tension. So, during anal sex, you will be able to tense your sphincters and influence the “tightness” for your partner. The advantage is that you will both feel each other more intensely. We'll show you how to achieve this with regular pelvic floor muscle training now.

Why do you need to stretch your anus?

The anus is surrounded by muscles. These muscles are known as sphincters. The double ring of the sphincter is designed to hold certain substances in the body, and has no primary purpose for penetration. This means that this strong muscle starts to contract again over time if you don't have anal sex for a long time. This does not mean that you have to start from scratch, but after a break, it may not be as easy to start. Therefore, it is useful to stimulate the anus from time to time, even during “rest periods”, or to stretch the pelvic floor muscles and sphincters. We will show you two ways to do this.

1. Stretching with a toy

You can use an anal plug (with or without vibration, of your choice) to regularly stretch and stimulate your anus. You can do this during masturbation or just during your daily activities. It is important to choose the right size according to your experience. Beginners should start with a small plug with a diameter of 2.5-3 cm. Experienced users can choose a larger diameter to suit their taste. You can wear the plug from time to time while masturbating or just 15 minutes a day while showering or doing the dishes at home. During movement, the sphincter contracts around the toy, the muscles are gently stretched and strengthened at the same time.

Caution: Pelvic floor muscle training balls are not recommended for anal use because they do not have a stopper or handle to prevent full penetration. Therefore, when having anal sex or stretching, always use anal toys to avoid the risk of them penetrating too deeply into the anus.

2. Muscle training with pelvic floor exercises

Not only the vagina can benefit from pelvic floor training, but also the anus. Having more control over your sphincter muscles means being able to relax or tighten them at the right time. The following exercise can be performed with or without an anal plug. 

Here are 5 simple steps to train your pelvic floor muscles:

1. Feel your pelvic floor muscles. Squeeze your buttocks as if you are trying to hold a bowel movement.

2. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles and hold the tension for 5 seconds. Then relax them. Try to repeat the exercise three to four times in a row.

3. Concentrate on conscious tension and relaxation. Remember to breathe and avoid tensing other muscle groups.

4. Try to do the exercise every day. Optimally - 3 sets of 10 repetitions. You can do the exercises while sitting, waiting in line at the supermarket checkout, in the shower, or while doing the dishes.

5. To make your workout more intense, you can additionally train with an anal plug. To do this, take a butt plug that you can insert comfortably. Then tense and relax the sphincter as described above.

After anal sex

After anal sex, it is recommended to clean the anus and the area around it again. 

Toys for anal sex

All you need to get started is a small anal plug, an anal shower, anal lubricant, and a sex toy cleaner. With a diverse selection of quality products, you'll have exciting moments that make you want to keep going - whether you're a couple or for your first solo anal sex.

Feel clean with an anal shower

Are you worried about cleanliness during anal sex? A short rinse with a small anal shower will wash away all doubts! To do this, remove the nozzle, fill the bulb with warm water and insert the thin tip directly into the anus - now you can gently squeeze the bulb.

Lubricant is a must!

Anal lubricant provides long-lasting moisturizing. This is especially important during anal sex because the anus does not produce its own moisture. Simply apply a small amount of gel to the anus as well as to the penis or anal toy and enjoy gliding during anal sex.